How to Fall In-love without Losing Oneself

It's the same old story over and over, a woman is on the top of her game, good career, healthy relationships with friends and family and generally good disposition. She finds a man, falls in love and suddenly he becomes her world. She loses herself more and more as time passes by, until she is only the shadow of the amazing woman she used to be.

I'm not claiming to be an expert and I know I've fallen into this pattern myself. So how do we do it? How do you fall in-love without losing oneself? Here are some tips I've gathered. Tips that I think are sensible and doable.

Get to know "YOU"

First and foremost, you should know who you are inside and out. What are your strengths and weaknesses? What makes you happy and what ticks you off? What do you want? What do you think do you need to improve in your personality and lifestyle? The better you get the answers to these questions, the better you keep track of who you are as a person and who you are in your relationship.

Learn something new.

Don't fall into a boring relationship pattern. Go out and do something exciting. Sign up for a class or a hobby. You can do this with or without him and still have fun. Trust me, I've done this and it is a very liberating experience. Find something you are passionate about and take the time to focus on it.

Be fabulous.

Don't neglect your looks, your body and health. When he becomes your world, you tend to overlook taking good care of yourself. I'm guilty of doing this too. Now I know better. Constantly re-invent your look, don't compromise your beauty habits and keep a healthy lifestyle. Looking great on the outside gives a good dose of confidence boost which will greatly help your self-esteem.

Don't ignore everyone else.

Just because you're lost in love, it doesn't mean that you have to alienate everyone else from your life. Remember friends and family will always be there when he isn't.

Just be you.

Don't worry that you have to please him all the time. Being a part of a relationship doesn't require you to lose your individuality. A friend told me once that you shouldn't be in a relationship with a guy when you start to wish that you are someone else.

You first.

Above all else, give time and effort to pamper yourself. Take the necessary break away from him. Don't take this as a negative thing, this is actually good because you can reconnect with yourself. Love yourself. Loving yourself is just as important as loving someone else.

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I know that after reading this you'll think, these are pretty easy. I assure you that even though it sounds simple, every relationship and every situation has very unique complications and what is simple can get very difficult. I've learned this the hard way and I've tried. But the key factor here is that you'll keep trying. These keypoints are merely guidelines, and by knowing how...then that's a start. Find the will and do it.

What about you? Are there any other ways that you can share on how to fall in love without losing yourself? If you do, please share it with me and my readers.

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