Love and All that Jazz

By Cher Cabula-Mendoza - Thursday, October 04, 2018

5 Tips to Finding the Love of Your Life

What’s love got to do with it? Absolutely everything! Let’s face it, finding a life partner is one of the hardest things to accomplish today. For a majority of people, the journey to finding love is both challenging and very daunting in equal measures. While this may be mainly due to the genuine lack of suitable partners, one major reason is the stereotypes and limitations we place on ourselves. We have been conditioned to follow the misleading stereotypes and the status quo when it comes to dating. This not only limits your perspective, but it also blocks you from finding the true love of your life.

The most elusive way of finding love is ensuring that you find someone who resonates with your entire being. Remember, you are planning to make a commitment for a lifetime. So it only makes sense for you to find someone who will complete you. Forget about the experiences that you have had before, no matter how badly you were burned in your previous relationships. By doing this, you will be going to your new relationship with a clear and open mind that will help you to find true love.

Read on and see 5 tips that will guide you in finding the love of your life:

1. Know What You Want
Before going on a quest to find your perfect love, ensure that you are very honest with yourself about what you want. As says, if you cannot be honest with yourself, you will find that you are ready to settle for anyone that comes along. Whether you are looking for a short-term fling or a long-term commitment for life, ensure that your partner meets the desired characteristic and should also be on the same level as you are to avoid wasting each other's time.

2. Be the Person You Want to Attract
In order to attract the kind of person that ticks off every item on your checklist, you also need to become that person. List down all the attributes that you want your life partner to have and then move to ask yourself if such a person would want to spend the rest of his or her life with you. Align your ideal attributes with your own to see where you need to work on yourself.

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3. Forget the Perfect Partner
First, let’s just get this out of the way: the perfect partner does not exist! Many people tend to judge their partners harshly and dismiss them for the most mundane reasons. At the beginning of the relationship, the honeymoon phase will sweep you off your feet and I bet you will expect no less from your partner.

However, you need to remember that no one is perfect - not even you. Learn your partner and find the middle ground. This will enable you to make the tweaks necessary to ensure that the honeymoon phase is not a temporary stage in your relationship.

4. Just Live
You don't need to come up with a written strategy to get a life partner. Love tends to come your way when you aren't actively searching for it. Work on yourself as we mentioned above and just live your life with some positivity as well as foresight. Once you are content with your own company and how you live your life every other day, you are ready to share that positive space with someone else.

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5. Trust the Process
Timing really is everything. It is common to feel like you are not good enough for someone else. Take some time and just work on what you feel is weighing you down. Keep in mind that, even when you are there feeling hopeless and despondent, someone still moves past your imperfections and sees the beauty in you.

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